3 Things to Learn to Keep a Relationship

Have you ever wonder how did some couples made it to last long together? How they were able to keep the spark? It's a real big question for us especially in this days that social media plays a huge part in our lives. We often see advices posted on facebook or a thread in twitter about how to handle relationships, how to date, how to keep a man/woman, but are we able to apply it in our relationship or we just share it and have wishful thinking that our relationships will be like that?

Being in a relationship is difficult for so many reasons (which obviously, you are aware of!), because it's not just all about love. Oh, the great love! Relationships must also be build with trust, honesty and patience, although these things are hard to earn and to practice, especially nowadays that everyone seems to be broken and shattered.

Some people are afraid to trust and to open up. They have built walls higher than the walls of the north, because someone had broken their trust many times, and they believe that every words other people say are lies, though we could not blame them, they are just tired being lied straight to their faces and treated as fools. While some were impatient about their relationships, that they end up breaking their own hearts. They could not wait for the plans that their partners had for them or they wanted things their way, forgetting that they have partners to build plans with, and others bottled their feelings and they are afraid to be honest about what they are actually feeling because they are often shut down by the person they love.

Yet, if we want our relationships to work and to last long, we need to learn how to trust, to be honest and to be patient. When learning these things, you don't need to haste because love is not a race, besides our ultimate goal is to grow together, to keep our relationships happy and exciting, which we often forgets. We also need to remember that being in a relationship always takes two person to make it work. Don't let one person just handle it, instead handle it together as you build trust and learn to be patient, because sometimes your fights would seem a lost case, but as long as you are patient with one another, things will be better.

Aside from that communicate openly about your thoughts and your feelings to further understand each other. Sometimes this is where we fail. We keep things to ourselves instead of telling things to our partner and mostly these things we keep are doubts and fears, but you know it takes courage to say these things to them. Yet, once you did it, things will go smoothly in your relationship, because they will be able to understand you since they are not fortunetellers and they will be able to react properly to your emotions and feelings.

However, we also need to understand that our relationships can't be perfect. There will be arguments and moments of silence, but you have to remember why you have love that person, and break ups should not be in your options unless you are being toxic to each other already or if there is violence involved.

Lastly, remember what is written in 1 Corinthians 13:4 -8. Keep this in mind and your love will prosper and your relationship will last forever.